Card for the Week

Card for the Week

The Three of Swords

Well folks this seems to be the card of the week. Sorry about that. This is not some scary form of haruspicy but it is about pain, which can be scary. If it is any consolation you are not alone in this suffering and much of the pain you see here has already happened. Intrigued ? Read on.

The Message 

The message is that things are not looking great, you are in pain whether you know it or not. That is because you have three swords in your beautiful tender heart. Don’t let the image scare you, the stabbing can’t be avoided as it has already happened. The Swords are already in your heart but they are yet to come out the other side, and they need to because that’s where clarity lives. The message is to consciously push them through and go that bit deeper. That might sound disproportionately bloodthirsty but it’s just about pushing through, feeling and expressing what is already in there. Once the feelings have been expressed and those painful swords pushed out, you will feel so much better, a lot less stuck and stagnant and hopefully clarity will be yours.

The Logistics

In Tarot the cards numbered threes are all about creative expression and growth. The kind of growth that comes with the acknowledging, feeling and integrating of experience. The trio of, notice, feel, and do combination. Like a kind of triangle of awareness. Three’s are generally positive and are of course the magic number. The Swords add a bit of an edge, as they have the intense vibe that comes with strong thoughts and feelings.

The card’s element is Air, with the astrological sign of Libra and the planet  Uranus – which brings about a future focus, along with the unpredictable , uniqueness, liberation/rebellion/revolutionary and the overall area of unconventional genius type qualities. If it sounds like a lot, it’s because it is.

The Card

The Three of Swords shows a stormy grey background, the kind you want to be cosy in bed for.  It blusters away behind a bright red heart being pierced by three crossed swords. The three swords represents strong feelings which have wounded your heart with their double edge entry. Yet interestingly if you look at the image only a single edge has penetrated through to the other side. It is a visual metaphor that tells us those strong feelings have entered the heart and caused great pain, none of which has had the opportunity to be expressed. So instead they sit together festering unresolved and unprocessed. 

The feelings like the dark clouds of the background storm can appear out of the blue at any time, taking us by surprise either to overwhelm and blurt out of us, or to make us bottle them up for another time. Another time that doesn’t come as life can move at such a pace that we don’t get the time to unpack and feel them, in a way that helps us let them go.

If that doesn’t fit for you….

Perhaps the person hurting you is yourself, do you have an unkind attitude to yourself, are you criticising yourself in a way that is mean and unhelpful. There comes a time when that kind of attitude stops working for you and starts turning in on you making you miserable and doing undue emotional damage. Would you let your friend talk to themselves like that or treat yourself like that. Feeling your pain doesn’t have to be a regime of self punishing, that’s something else and it’s good to know the difference. Start being kind to yourself, changing your self talk and doing nurturing things for yourself daily. Call yourself sweetheart and go and have some fun, laugh, dance, listen to music, play, have sex, celebrate life.

Recipe For Pushing the Swords thru

A Hygge style of accompaniment to the III of Swords


  • Turn my phone off and all devices
  • x Litres: Fluid up and coffee
  • 2-3 pages: Writing – mad venting
  • 5-20 minutes: Meditating – Reiki myself
  • A Day: Lock myself away – Make it cosy, light a candle, burs some oils, frankincense or palo Santo
  • 15 minutes +: Listen to music that stirs my soul, from making me want to dance or wail, whatever you are feeling
  • 45 minutes: Going for a walk in nature
  • Cook myself something delicious
  • Watch Drag race or any of the Trixie & Katya shows


Living in Scandinavia on my own really helped me to focus on my inner and outer health and make my environment cosy, like the Danish concept of Hygge: a wellbeing accompaniment. Additionally in that time I compiled all the knowledges that I learn’t over the years. A mixture of healing and therapy techniques, combined and influenced by the likes of Julia Cameron- artists way, Caroline Myss. Listening to Eckhart Tolle. And from years of Reiki practise and listening to myself. 

My god father Adrian would tell me that people avoid making decisions and taking responsibility. That sometimes you just have to be like a wombat and just keep going through things.


  1. I Turn off all devices and remove anything that will distract me.
  2. I make sure I have water and a coffee on hand
  3. Sit warm in bed and write 2-3 pages in my journal of mad expressive venting type of writing. I stop when I feel like I have got it all out.
  4. Once I feel like I have written my madness out, I sit calmly and Reiki myself  for about 5-20 minutes. It is like deep meditating, where I focus on my inner being, breath deeply into my abdomen and pay attention to thoughts, feelings or aches in my body. Then I draw on the reiki/healing energy and pay attention to what comes up. Then I let the feelings flow out without judging or analysing them, but sometimes I do, as I try and make sense of them.
  5. I go for a walk and pay attention to nature, which is usually the birds and trees. It keeps me present and aware of what is going on around me. It’s really grounding and brings me back to being.
  6. I try to stay away from people hermit style. At least for the a part or the whole day: I make it as cosy as possible, light a candle burn some oils, frankincense or palo Santo.  I try and make myself some delicious food, if I am not feeling great I keep it light.
  7. I listen to music that will lift my mood or that I can dance too. I listen to what ever I’m drawn to usually its filthy hip hop, funk, disco or dance divas.
  8. I usually sit and write or lie like a feats on the couch watching something that makes me feel heart felt or to laugh. I Watch Ru Paul’s Drag race or Trixie and Katya because it gives me all the feels, laugh and reminds me that we are all in this life together and that loads have people have had to overcome more than me and still manage to entertain others and do more.

To serve this delightful mix of expressing my feelings out. I would serve it like a cosy Danish Hygge accompaniment.

Sometimes the challenge of feeling and resolving things within you seems like the worse thing in the world. But you have to be like a wombat and just go through it. I would serve it like a cosy Danish Hygge accompaniment.