Nobody Knows You Better Than You
Narrative therapy is a collaborative approach to counselling because the therapist recognises that you are the expert on your own life and know more about it than your therapist. This therapy comes in the form of describing experiences through stories known as ‘narratives’.
We all have many stories which give our lives meaning and help to define who we are and what we are about. You may realise that you have quite a few narratives going on simultaneously, some of them conflict with each other, and some seem to fade out when another story theme takes over. It only gets tricky when we get stuck in a bad storyline that dominates, and we feel hopeless or weighed down by a problem and, in turn, forget about all the other parts of us that are strong and helpful.
Some of these stories can hold a lot of power over us and create some nasty dialogue in our heads. Narrative therapy assumes that we all have good intentions and always act in resistance to problems and difficulties we face. Some of these stories need to be reframed and updated so they can help us better.
How does it work
It may seem like your therapist is asking you a stream of silly questions, but this is because a narrative therapist wants to understand what has happened and doesn’t want to make assumptions or generalised judgements. It is surprisingly helpful because sometimes we have become so used to things we remember that we take for granted some of the thinking that got us there. We often forget how difficult it can be to live in this world and have good reasons for what we have done. It is here where we can upgrade our thinking once we have had a chance to look at things from where we are now. It’s important to note that Natale uses narrative therapy as a powerful tool within counselling sessions to help access a person’s healing with an alternative approach to the unhelpful story’s that people have of themselves.